The Amazing Power of Surrender

What pops up into your head when you hear the word surrender?
Failure? Giving up? Or worse, defeat? Apparently, that's not always the case.

"One of the most important changes we can make is to shift from seeing surrender as a sign of defeat to seeing it as a land of victory inside ourselves." 

Marrianne Williamson

That is mind-boggling!

A lot has been written, heard way too much. We were brainwashed with the idea that we need to keep pushing ourselves a million times for that single precious goal we had been eyeing for the longest time. Very few actually confabulate that one major contributor to success is to let go of the things that no longer serve you purpose.

When you battle against your ego, you express the real you. The one that doesn't really require any attachments to feel safe or happy. Getting to know yourself starts from letting go of the things/people that you mistakenly believed brought you security and happiness.

How can we actually move on from these things/people? Here are five suggestions to be free - finally!

1. Giving up the right things

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There are plenty of things to give up on. Be careful on choosing the right things to let go. Let me give you a smart advice. Stay focused on one goal at a time and three things will happen to you.

According to Jullien Gordon:

You will master the subject matter or skill.

You master the process of mastery.

You master yourself. 

And once you master these three, then deciding whether or not they are the right things to let go will be as simple as ABC.


2. Letting go when the time is right

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We can always make time for everything if we plan ahead. Same as true with letting go, there is always a perfect time for flying the coop. 

If you are in a toxic relationship, let go. Sure, this easy-to-say-hard-to-do thing is true but it's not always physically and mentally healthy. You may experience over-eating because of stress, resulting to overweight. Perhaps, you might skip meals or worse, not eat at all because of thinking way too much about rejection and you ended up famished, and unproductive and for one thing, it drains the hell out of you. 

So then what's the kicker?

Well, you know exactly when to let go. You will feel it from the very core of your human system. You will know when the time is right.


3. Stop being a control freak!

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Having in control of everything on every situation is a talent. Very little of us know that too much wire pulling can destroy the lives of both the controller and the one being controlled. If you feel like a cog in a big machine, it's a sign to let go.

"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life."

Steve Jobs 

You have that power of choice so use it. 

The joy of surrender makes you flow more with anything. You can't control everything. There is a breathing room. That's the point of surrender. Back-off a little when you badly needs something so you don't get overbearing with it. 


4. Get enormous rest

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What's better than getting zzz's?

I honestly can't think of anything myself. On the grounds that the benefit of sleep has been linked to incredible researchers and any inadequacy may lead to chronic illnesses. Not only does it affect you physically but also cognitively.

When you have enough rest, you decide better. You will have a clear cut mindset on things you no longer need to hold into. And when that happens, you'll feel good about letting go.



5. Love yourself

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Remember when I mentioned, master yourself from the outset? In essence, knowing yourself is candidly loving it. Self love is simply loving yourself exactly as you are. Even if it means letting go of things you cannot control. 

"Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world." 

Lucille Ball

Don't let yourself imprisoned or locked into the cycle of low self-worth. Freedom is your one-way ticket so you can't afford to miss the ride. It's always, a-l-w-a-y-s about you.

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Here's a sans pareil quote by Mary Summerbell:

Surrender is not quitting. To quit means to stop and never go back.

Surrender is not giving up. To give up means to stop trying.

To give in means to yield. It is flexible and flexibility is a strength.

"We raise our hands in surrender, a gesture of supplication, as we humbly ask for help. There is an element of elevation in it; we must lift up to hand over. In surrendering we do not change our intention or our principles. We do not change who we are or what we believe in. We only realize we have reached our limits in the moment. We have done all we can for now."

And we ultimately go back stronger.